So the past few weeks have been very stressful for our family. First off me starting a new job and my kids having to get used to me not being home all the time. That is a big adjustment for them and they have don't very well. Second getting served foreclosure papers on our house and being confused and frustrated and a little unsure of everything that was going on with that. Third Joshua's brand new phone breaks and we are told there was not insurance on it and we are out of luck, gotta get a new one. All of this happens in the same week. This was a huge blow to us and didn't quite know how to deal with it.
Finally after days on the phone with our mortgage company we come to find out that they failed to send a cancellation of foreclosure notice to the attorneys who a year ago started the process of foreclosure on our home. Fine I now know we are not loosing our home but it was still in the paper this past week. This will be a little difficult to handle when people start saying things to us about it but like someone has said everyone has "STUFF" in their lives! We are very fortunate to have fixed our problem but we still have to face the consequences of our past. God has taught me that no matter what we are going through, HE is always there for us. All we have to do is trust in him and give him our problems and he will meet our needs!!
We are still trying to figure out the phone issue but we luckily had an old phone Joshua could use for now so we don 't have to pay for another one!
One major praise I have is we just paid off all of our debt we had accept our home and that has been refinanced and we can now pay it off faster! My goal for us is to be totally debt free in 5 years. I truly believe that can happen if we continue to let God have control of our money and lives!
Sunday, February 13, 2011
Tuesday, February 8, 2011
Frustration
The past few years have been quite a roller coaster for our family. Before my husband started working for Jergenson's he worked construction and would get laid off 4-8 months out of the year. Needless to say we were very poor. I did day care and that didn't bring in much money because I didn't have very many full time kids. When Joshua took his job at Jergenson's we were so blessed and very excited that he wouldn't be laid off any more. We had many bills that were past due and in those list of bills was our mortgage payment. We had started to get past due notices and high late charges added to your mortgage. After being 2 months behind the mortgage company decided to not accept payments from us anymore. We had been sending partial payments and everything we could but it just wasn't enough. So after they quit accepting payments we had to come up with the total amount past due and all the late fees which was a very large amount that we did not have. We finally got 6 months behind on our payments while trying to work with our bank to get caught up. Last year after we got our tax returns we paid all of our past due balance and then we refinanced our house through the bank to lower our interest rate and get our payments lower as well.
For the last year we have been doing really well on making our payments and staying up to date. On Friday while I was at work Joshua was served foreclosure papers on our house. Stating that we were $8000 behind and it needed to be paid up or our house will be sold March 30 at 10:00am. He called me in a panic and of course it was a Friday night so there was nothing we could do.
I called the bank on Monday( yesterday) and they told me that those were from a while ago and since we were all paid up now that we are not to worry. I asked them to send me that in writing and certified mail. I have no trust in the banking system and now me and my family will be totally embarrassed when it comes out in the newspaper. NO we are not loosing our house. If you would have asked me that a year ago sure I would have said yes. Now I am just mad, scared, and frustrated.
Jeremiah 29:11 For I know the plans I have for you declares the Lord. Plans to prosper you and not to harm you, Plans for a hope and a future.
I know God is in control but can't I still be mad, scared and frustrated all at the same time?
For the last year we have been doing really well on making our payments and staying up to date. On Friday while I was at work Joshua was served foreclosure papers on our house. Stating that we were $8000 behind and it needed to be paid up or our house will be sold March 30 at 10:00am. He called me in a panic and of course it was a Friday night so there was nothing we could do.
I called the bank on Monday( yesterday) and they told me that those were from a while ago and since we were all paid up now that we are not to worry. I asked them to send me that in writing and certified mail. I have no trust in the banking system and now me and my family will be totally embarrassed when it comes out in the newspaper. NO we are not loosing our house. If you would have asked me that a year ago sure I would have said yes. Now I am just mad, scared, and frustrated.
Jeremiah 29:11 For I know the plans I have for you declares the Lord. Plans to prosper you and not to harm you, Plans for a hope and a future.
I know God is in control but can't I still be mad, scared and frustrated all at the same time?
Saturday, January 15, 2011
Snuggly Kids
Yesterday I had the privilege to spend the day at home with Ellie. She was home sick with strep and was miserable. I hate having sick kids but I sure do enjoy the one on one time I get with them and the snuggle time I get too! God gives us blessings in disguise.
Thursday, January 13, 2011
The Married Life
I was so frustrated yesterday with my husband and kids for not helping around the house. I have spent the past few days cleaning and organizing and explaining to my family how I wanted them to help me keep it up. I had had enough yesterday with no one helping so I took a day off and was a bum at home on the couch. Last night my husband decided to finally put his clothes away and do some laundry! I was very thankful he took the initiative to help out. I even helped him spray his work coat to get some of the stains out. I switched the loads before I went to bed and let them dry during the night. I never questioned him emptying his pockets cuz he is a big boy and should know how to do that.
This morning I got a text from my husband saying how sorry he is for the mess in the dryer and that he will take care of it after work...all I could think of is the pens that he carries in his shirt pockets and the wonderful art work that was left inside the dryer.
Now should I be upset? I am a little, he was helping me and doing laundry. That is a blessing that he did that, but just frustrated with the irresponsibility of not checking his pockets. Now I have black ink strips all over in my dryer. I guess I should just look at the little things and be very happy he was helping and forgive him for his mistake. Many of the life lessons God teaches me in Marriage...Forgiveness. What would I do with out it?
This morning I got a text from my husband saying how sorry he is for the mess in the dryer and that he will take care of it after work...all I could think of is the pens that he carries in his shirt pockets and the wonderful art work that was left inside the dryer.
Now should I be upset? I am a little, he was helping me and doing laundry. That is a blessing that he did that, but just frustrated with the irresponsibility of not checking his pockets. Now I have black ink strips all over in my dryer. I guess I should just look at the little things and be very happy he was helping and forgive him for his mistake. Many of the life lessons God teaches me in Marriage...Forgiveness. What would I do with out it?
Wednesday, January 5, 2011
My Family
L MAC |
Princess Ellie |
Ellie enjoys playing with her American Girl Dolls with her sister and makes sure that she is the Mommy:) Ellie loves to help take care of her younger sister and makes sure that she isn't getting in to trouble. Ellie has really made me learn how to parent and thanks to her I feel like I am getting better at it all the time. I am so proud of her!
Miss Aftyn |
Aftyn loves her babies and blankies. She never goes any where without them. She is happy, light hearted and always smiling. Aftyn lights up and room where ever she goes. I couldn't have asked for better kids!!
I married my high school sweetheart 8 years ago! Joshua is the best husband anyone could ask for. He is a natural Dad and loves his kids more than words could describe. Joshua has been on the Fire Department for 6 years and is a lieutenant on Company 8. He is a carpenter by trade and also a tow truck operator. Joshua is a very hard worker and is always helping others in his free time. He loves his family and is the best husband and father anyone could ask for!
I am a stay at home mom and day care provider. I enjoy being at home but also enjoy spending time away from home with friends. I love to knit, read, scrapbook and run. I love being a mom more that I ever could have imagined. It is a difficult task but God wouldn't allow more that I can't handle. I am help lead a group of young single, married, divorced moms who just can't find the right support group. I love people and love to help people. God has given me a compassionate heart and I try use it as much as I can.
That is just a glimpse of my wonderful family! I am so blessed to have the best family in the world!!
Tuesday, January 4, 2011
3 Year Old Drama
Today I have been faced with many tantrums from my 3 year old daughter Aftyn. First off she threw a fit at 7:30am because she wanted to take a bath before preschool. Not a big deal because we still had an hour and a half before we had to be there. But there was a small issue, her brother and sister were not yet awake for school and they needed to leave the house by 8:05am. I was feeling a little overwhelmed and rushed to get them and me ready for the day. I put Miss Aftyn in the tub and rushed to get the others going. After a few minutes they were dressed and getting themselves going just fine. The next thing I know Aftyn is crying in the tub because it wasn't a bubble bath. Trying to explain to a 3 year old that it is very hard to put bubbles in the tub after it is full is very hard to do. The crying gets louder and then the screaming starts. I start to get upset and very frustrated then remember Logan and Ellie still need to get out the door for school.
They are finally on their way and I have to break the news to Aftyn that it is time to get washed up and out. I knew she would get mad if I rushed her so I asked her to wash her own hair( knowing it wouldn't get done all the way) and wash her body. Then I would help her rinse. That all went over great until it was time to get out. She didn't want to. It was cold out of the tub and mommy also didn't have the right towel that Aftyn wanted today.
I just smiled and in that moment I looked at her and told her how much I loved her and how cute she was. Her face light up and she threw her wet arms around me and said I'm sorry mommy, I love you too! Thoses were the 2 best things a mom could hear. After that moment I thought ok ,we are done with our spat of the day now we can enjoy this day together.
Aftyn got dried off and went in her room and in that moment her little face went back to the sadness she had before and cried again because she didn't like her clothes. "Mommy you didn't get me a dress" She said. I looked and smiled and thought, Oh boy I need to get through this day.
On our way to school Aftyn was as happy as could be, and told me about how happy she was to be going back to school. I kissed her, told her I loved her and prayed for her before we got out of the car.
Two hours later I got to school to pick her up in hopes that we were going to enjoy our afternoon before the others got home from school. She saw me and gave me a hug and said, "I missed you Mommy." We gathered her things and walked down the hall hand in hand. She asked me what we were going to do today, and I reminded her we needed to eat lunch first, then we could plan our afternoon. She pulled her hand out of mine and ran down the hall crying and yelling. "I don't want to go home and I didn't want you to pick me up today! I'm not going home with you!" I picked her up and hugged her, then carried her to the car as she was hitting and kicking me. We got in the car and I told her I was sorry she was mad at me. I wished her day was going better but I couldn't change that only she could. Then all of a sudden she told me I was stupid. I paused for a moment before I spoke, then I reminded her how much I loved her. And that I would never use words like that to her. I was sad she used words like that to me. She appoligized and said she loved me to.o My heart melted, how could I be upset with a little girl who is so sweet and innocent?
While I was at Mops today the speaker talked about parenting resolutions for the New Year. He first off said that we need to be the best parent we can be. This is the calling that God has given me right now is to be a mommy and to do it to the best of my ability. Also to do better at the things I can to best with my kids. I think God was showing me today patience and how I needed to do that to the best of my ability with my beautiful 3 year old Drama Queen.
I couldn't be more blessed even when I have days like these!
They are finally on their way and I have to break the news to Aftyn that it is time to get washed up and out. I knew she would get mad if I rushed her so I asked her to wash her own hair( knowing it wouldn't get done all the way) and wash her body. Then I would help her rinse. That all went over great until it was time to get out. She didn't want to. It was cold out of the tub and mommy also didn't have the right towel that Aftyn wanted today.
I just smiled and in that moment I looked at her and told her how much I loved her and how cute she was. Her face light up and she threw her wet arms around me and said I'm sorry mommy, I love you too! Thoses were the 2 best things a mom could hear. After that moment I thought ok ,we are done with our spat of the day now we can enjoy this day together.
Aftyn got dried off and went in her room and in that moment her little face went back to the sadness she had before and cried again because she didn't like her clothes. "Mommy you didn't get me a dress" She said. I looked and smiled and thought, Oh boy I need to get through this day.
On our way to school Aftyn was as happy as could be, and told me about how happy she was to be going back to school. I kissed her, told her I loved her and prayed for her before we got out of the car.
Two hours later I got to school to pick her up in hopes that we were going to enjoy our afternoon before the others got home from school. She saw me and gave me a hug and said, "I missed you Mommy." We gathered her things and walked down the hall hand in hand. She asked me what we were going to do today, and I reminded her we needed to eat lunch first, then we could plan our afternoon. She pulled her hand out of mine and ran down the hall crying and yelling. "I don't want to go home and I didn't want you to pick me up today! I'm not going home with you!" I picked her up and hugged her, then carried her to the car as she was hitting and kicking me. We got in the car and I told her I was sorry she was mad at me. I wished her day was going better but I couldn't change that only she could. Then all of a sudden she told me I was stupid. I paused for a moment before I spoke, then I reminded her how much I loved her. And that I would never use words like that to her. I was sad she used words like that to me. She appoligized and said she loved me to.o My heart melted, how could I be upset with a little girl who is so sweet and innocent?
While I was at Mops today the speaker talked about parenting resolutions for the New Year. He first off said that we need to be the best parent we can be. This is the calling that God has given me right now is to be a mommy and to do it to the best of my ability. Also to do better at the things I can to best with my kids. I think God was showing me today patience and how I needed to do that to the best of my ability with my beautiful 3 year old Drama Queen.
I couldn't be more blessed even when I have days like these!
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